Rant about a facebook rant

A friend of mine posted a nasty rant on facebook. It has absolutely nothing to do with me but it really got some thoughts rolling in the back of my mind. It took a lot of will power to not respond and laugh at her and tell her to grow up. She is only embarrassing herself making it seem like no one wants to hang out with her lol. But I wouldn’t be surprised if that is true.

Why put “PSA” in front of your post when you’re just putting your problems out there for everyone to see. It’s almost laughable that you think anyone wants to be friends with you when you treat people like shit; and then you want to blame them for not being part of your life after your husband left for 2 years.

I don’t know what the root of your problems are but since you’re putting it out for the public, my opinion is that if my friend’s husband was visiting for a couple days I would leave them alone so they could be together. I can’t imagine my feelings opening facebook to see that you bitched about it.

Maybe those friends stopped hanging out after he left because you’re actually a shitty person to be around, and because you’re selfish and only talk about yourself, brag about yourself, or complain about problems that could be easily solved if you just stopped throwing money at people to do things for you. Grow up.

The one time you tried to get me to come out with you I was already with my best friend ‘drinking wine’. You then said “Good grief I don’t know how you drink that much” insinuating that I have some sort of alcohol problem when you really do not know me AT all.

I have literally hung out with her maybe three times and we don’t talk often. No idea where she got that idea but it was clear she was just upset that I wouldn’t go hang out with her. The truth is that I wasn’t even drinking I just told her that to avoid having to hang out with her…But, back to my point. What kind of public service was she announcing in her post? The only public service she could do is remove herself from my facebook feed and stop clogging up my cat videos.

When you make something everyone else’s problem don’t get angry when someone calls you out or disagrees with you. Don’t be all butt hurt when someone has an opposing opinion and states their case and other people side with them. What if the person the post was directed to got on there and decided to call you out for all of your bullshit for the public to see? You would probably get angry and it would cause a comment war on facebook.

I am guilty, I’ve done that before and started a relationship altering fight on facebook. I have learned that lesson (more than once) and I am so done putting anything about my personal relationships on facebook .

What is the point of being their friend anyway, and what is the point of posting about it on facebook? Obviously you lack enough respect to talk to them in person and maybe it’s because of something YOU did, but you don’t know about because you wouldn’t just talk to them like and adult.

You are also putting words in your husbands mouth and creating a bad reputation for him. I think that is overall the worst part of it considering his profession. That makes me so angry.

This is why I hate facebook. I will be making some changes to my account and I am going to defriend/unfollow some more people because this is ridiculous. I don’t care about your massage appointment or your nail appointment that you go to every single week. I don’t care about your filtered selfies or yet another deer filter selfie. I don’t care to open my facebook and watch another video of you with a dog face licking the screen.

I want to see more of my sister snow-shoeing on Mount Rainier, and my father going skiing for the first time in 15 years. I want to see my best friend achieve her step goal on fitbit and like her new badge achievement post. I want to see my niece sing and watch my friend play with his adorable new kitten.

I go to facebook for connections. If I wanted politics I would go watch television or the news etc.

I want my family that lives across the U.S. to be able to see my accomplishments because with a huge family like mine it would be impossible to call everyone and plus I don’t usually call my cousins for that stuff, but even they can see it and we can all be in touch. I have over 2,000 photos on facebook and most of them I don’t remember until it pops up on my memories section which I love! These are the only reasons I have a facebook.

Right now it just seems like facebook is where sad, lonely people go and make their lives appear to be a fairytale, if only they could see how fake they look until you read between the lines and realize NO ONE CARES.

Just for a little laugh at the end of this, yes I am on my period haha. Sorry if that’s too much info but I’m a little bitchy in case you haven’t noticed ūüėČ

 

 

Entitled

On Facebook if you go to Inside Quest’s page, there is a video called “IQ Millennial Question”.¬†Simon Sinek preaches¬†a pretty powerful and in my opinion, accurate, explanation of why this generation¬†has such a difficult time.¬†He explains the major issues¬†with the generations born after 1994.

Sinek¬†claims that millennials are lazy, entitled, and¬†impatient but emphasize that they are entitled. He believes millennials are taught that they are “special” and can¬†have anything they want just by “wanting it that bad”. When kids ask for things¬†and are handed them, they are still not happy or fulfilled.

Sinek states that sometimes kids¬†made¬†honors classes or received A’s just because their parents complained, or the teachers didn’t want to deal with the parents. Others received awards just for participation.¬†I totally agree with his point that when you award someone for failing it actually makes them feel worse because they know they don’t deserve it.¬†Simon called it and said “Not¬†my words”, “failed parenting strategies”.

He went further to explain that those kids grow up and go to college and¬†then they come home and try to find a job only to realize their mothers can’t get them a promotion, they’re not special, they¬†get nothing for coming in last, and¬†they can’t have something just because they want it.

I also agree and relate to his point, that too many kids don’t know how to form deep meaningful relationships because¬†they don’t rely on their friends.¬†They know their friends will cancel if something better comes along and vise versa. They don’t have the coping mechanism to deal with stress in their lives so they¬†Mope¬†and turn to the things that help them feel better. Alcohol, drugs, social media etc. Those things offer temporary relief.

Some powerful quote from the video are:

“When they are stressed they will not turn to friends but the bottle”.

“People who spend more time on Facebook have higher rates of depression than people who spend less time on facebook”.

“Alcohol is not bad, too much alcohol is bad. Gambling isn’t bad, too much gambling is bad. If you’re sitting at the dinner table with your friends texting someone who isn’t there.. that’s a problem”.

“If you wake up and check your phone before you say hello to your boyfriend or girlfirend that’s a problem and it will destroy your life”.

“This generation is impatient. Everything is at your fingertips”.

Sinek¬†explained that nowadays if¬†you want something you can order it on amazon and have it arrive the next day. Or, for example, want to watch a movie? Go on Netflix or order it. Go on a date? You don’t even have to learn to approach someone in person and introduce yourself because you can do it online first.¬†He claimed millennials¬†don’t know how to say “no” because they’re too afraid to hurt someone’s feelings, whereas the rest of us had to learn how to do that on our own and not just “swipe right”.

I agree that almost everything you want is available¬†instantly. Searching for a job etc. You don’t even have to apply in person anymore it’s all online taking the hard work and sense of accomplishment out of it.

“Satisfaction is a messy/lengthy process”.

Many millennials have experienced wanting to quit their jobs because they haven’t made it anywhere (in 8 months!). Love, a skill set, a career is a long, difficult journey, and if you don’t work hard¬†and ask for help you will fall off the wagon.

“It’s an entire population never finding deep joy and fulfillment”. Always settling for “it’s fine”.

Milennials then blame themselves for not being competent enough to stick with something and second guess themselves when they make mistakes. It is not their fault because they were taught to expect everything to just arrive at their fingertips.

I completely agree, technology and social media is ruining the quality of our relationships. I loved it when they explained that relationships are formed by trust, not in an event or in a day, it is a slow steady consistency that creates trust.

My take away from this is to remove the temptation. Enjoy the world, “which is where ideas happen”. Don’t let social media take¬†away from the little things. Put the phone away or leave it at home when you’re with friends or family and be present.¬†Like an alcoholic removes alcohol from their lives to recover, I need to limit the amount of time I spend on my phone and learn to enjoy life again in the real world and not on social media.

I think so many people have these fairytale lives on Facebook but all we see is what they want us to see. It’s not reality or real life and therefore my expectations of what I should be doing right now are set unrealistically because it’s NOT REAL. Life is hard, everyone struggles and it can be extremely ugly at times. People can be ugly inside and out but you would never know after all the “filters”. Time¬†to come back to reality. My new resolution this year is going to be to remove as much social media and technology out of my daily routine as I can.

I cannot tell you how sad it made me when the previous guy I dated would sit in bed on his phone while I laid next to him trying to talk or get him to pay attention to me. Or I’d wake up to him clicking away on his tablet. I also know a few people who I used to be super close with who are¬†now so distant and only want to use social media to connect. I’m so done with that!

 

via Daily Prompt: Mope