Rant about a facebook rant

A friend of mine posted a nasty rant on facebook. It has absolutely nothing to do with me but it really got some thoughts rolling in the back of my mind. It took a lot of will power to not respond and laugh at her and tell her to grow up. She is only embarrassing herself making it seem like no one wants to hang out with her lol. But I wouldn’t be surprised if that is true.

Why put “PSA” in front of your post when you’re just putting your problems out there for everyone to see. It’s almost laughable that you think anyone wants to be friends with you when you treat people like shit; and then you want to blame them for not being part of your life after your husband left for 2 years.

I don’t know what the root of your problems are but since you’re putting it out for the public, my opinion is that if my friend’s husband was visiting for a couple days I would leave them alone so they could be together. I can’t imagine my feelings opening facebook to see that you bitched about it.

Maybe those friends stopped hanging out after he left because you’re actually a shitty person to be around, and because you’re selfish and only talk about yourself, brag about yourself, or complain about problems that could be easily solved if you just stopped throwing money at people to do things for you. Grow up.

The one time you tried to get me to come out with you I was already with my best friend ‘drinking wine’. You then said “Good grief I don’t know how you drink that much” insinuating that I have some sort of alcohol problem when you really do not know me AT all.

I have literally hung out with her maybe three times and we don’t talk often. No idea where she got that idea but it was clear she was just upset that I wouldn’t go hang out with her. The truth is that I wasn’t even drinking I just told her that to avoid having to hang out with her…But, back to my point. What kind of public service was she announcing in her post? The only public service she could do is remove herself from my facebook feed and stop clogging up my cat videos.

When you make something everyone else’s problem don’t get angry when someone calls you out or disagrees with you. Don’t be all butt hurt when someone has an opposing opinion and states their case and other people side with them. What if the person the post was directed to got on there and decided to call you out for all of your bullshit for the public to see? You would probably get angry and it would cause a comment war on facebook.

I am guilty, I’ve done that before and started a relationship altering fight on facebook. I have learned that lesson (more than once) and I am so done putting anything about my personal relationships on facebook .

What is the point of being their friend anyway, and what is the point of posting about it on facebook? Obviously you lack enough respect to talk to them in person and maybe it’s because of something YOU did, but you don’t know about because you wouldn’t just talk to them like and adult.

You are also putting words in your husbands mouth and creating a bad reputation for him. I think that is overall the worst part of it considering his profession. That makes me so angry.

This is why I hate facebook. I will be making some changes to my account and I am going to defriend/unfollow some more people because this is ridiculous. I don’t care about your massage appointment or your nail appointment that you go to every single week. I don’t care about your filtered selfies or yet another deer filter selfie. I don’t care to open my facebook and watch another video of you with a dog face licking the screen.

I want to see more of my sister snow-shoeing on Mount Rainier, and my father going skiing for the first time in 15 years. I want to see my best friend achieve her step goal on fitbit and like her new badge achievement post. I want to see my niece sing and watch my friend play with his adorable new kitten.

I go to facebook for connections. If I wanted politics I would go watch television or the news etc.

I want my family that lives across the U.S. to be able to see my accomplishments because with a huge family like mine it would be impossible to call everyone and plus I don’t usually call my cousins for that stuff, but even they can see it and we can all be in touch. I have over 2,000 photos on facebook and most of them I don’t remember until it pops up on my memories section which I love! These are the only reasons I have a facebook.

Right now it just seems like facebook is where sad, lonely people go and make their lives appear to be a fairytale, if only they could see how fake they look until you read between the lines and realize NO ONE CARES.

Just for a little laugh at the end of this, yes I am on my period haha. Sorry if that’s too much info but I’m a little bitchy in case you haven’t noticed ūüėČ

 

 

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So Frustrated (rant)

I recently accepted a new position and I am starting over with a new company and business all together. My time at my current position started out wonderfully and I was really excited about my future.

For many reasons, things started to change at the office. It was one of the busiest seasons they ever had and it caused a lot of tension and conflict, especially having multiple hot-headed, successful women who do all do their processes differently working in the same office. It caused one person to leave because this job would have literally killed her. After she left the tension was altered slightly and I began to enjoy it again.

I was moved up and taken from the¬†closed off¬†front area and moved to the back to train for a higher position. I asked in person and tried many times to discuss my new responsibilities and by boss conveniently was always either sick, too busy and ignored me all together. I was promised to be trained and specific hours of the week. It only happened twice… I learned the rest on my own.

Then about a month later another lead began to act like the one who quit, and was being nasty. They were becoming angry and bitchy and were constantly negative. That type of attitude rubbed off on everyone else and caused more conflict until they finally had enough and left as well.

One of the¬†problems I am having is that NO ONE in this company plans ahead… They take no measures to ensure that¬†the lead’s¬†clients were notified¬†that they¬†left the company. I have multiple customers per day who call asking for¬†that person¬†and are surprised when I tell them they no longer work here and that their lead has changed to someone else with out their consent. It makes all of us look bad. But, like I said in my other rants, clearly they don’t care about the customers and only about the money they make.

When I started here I was promised multiple things. I was promised full benefits after 90 days and plenty of opportunities¬†for growth.. I worked my ass off and learned the business from scratch. I’ve been here months and come to find out I don’t even work for this company, I am actually employed through a vendor that they chose for me. I was hired as a TEMP without that being specifically disclosed.

I asked for my papers that I signed when I was hired so I could go over them again and make sure I knew what I signed up for. NO ONE has those papers. I was told to look online and I have and I’ve contacted the vendor and my boss and no one has any of my papers except for my I-9… What the heck?!

This¬†season is super slow. People were talking about layoffs and conveniently for the company,¬†I’m the expendable one. So I decided to get out as soon as possible before I was¬†laid off and found another job.

What a coincidence that¬†on the day I gave my notice, my car was fucking keyed in our parking garage. There are other businesses in this building, no cameras in the garage and I spoke to the garage manager who told me they can’t do anything about it. I suspect it was a coworker of mine who found out I was leaving¬†before I planned for them to.

You see, a friend of mine who works here helped me get the job. So I respectfully notified her FIRST and NO ONE else that I had found another job. I asked that she wait to mention anything until I had a chance to talk to everyone else first.¬†I found out from another coworker that my other team member (one of our leads)¬†heard it from my friend before I had a chance to tell them. UGH I hate it when people gossip like that, at least I take it here where no one¬† even knows who I’m talking about, and I’m not¬†doing it maliciously I am simply frustrated and want to let it out! I do not expect any outcome from this… I really did not expect my ADULT friend to go behind my back like that.

I understand if she feels angry that she helped me get this job but I spoke to her about my issues in person¬†before, told her I was looking for another job,¬†and she was really surprised about some of the things I said. I thought she would be happy for me but she didn’t even respond when I told her. She lives hours away so I¬†didn’t have the chance to¬†tell her in person. I probably should have called her but I thought she would be understanding. I emailed her and respectfully told her that I had a new opportunity and thanked her for her efforts and hoping she would understand. I didn’t want her to think I was ungrateful. I guess none of my efforts helped. She lied to me anyway promising me a promotion saying she would hire me as her assistant if I waited until the end of the year. I couldn’t wait any longer and don’t want to work with her anyway.

The lead¬†she told is on the same team as me and¬†did not like me from the start. They(the lead. I’m trying to be as vague as possible about their¬†identity)¬†were rude, condescending, confrontational,¬†and narcissistic. I highly suspect it was¬†the lead¬†because after talking with my boss about my job change we agreed it would be best for my boss to tell¬†the lead first,¬†and then I would talk to¬†the lead¬†about it after.

I was waiting for my boss to tell me¬†they told¬†that person¬†(like¬†they said¬†they would) and no surprise to me, they didn’t.. I should have just told¬†the lead¬†myself and looking back now it was stupid of me to rely on my boss to do it because I learned long ago that¬†my boss it lazy and does not do anything that they say..¬†So towards the end of the day my team member came up to me and told me they knew about it and congratulated me (I didn’t buy the act¬†one bit). I hate to be the kind of person to point fingers but due to the unplanned way that they found out and adding up all the previous times they were¬†malicious to me for no reason I strongly suspect the lead was the one who keyed my car.

I have no way of finding out, I don’t want to accuse anyone without proof, and now I have scratches down to the metal all along the passenger side of my car.. I am taking it to get an estimate tomorrow…

I am trying to be respectful and stick out the two weeks with my chin up and ignore my rotten team-mate. However, I am finding it extremely difficult and I am having a really hard time ‘killing them with kindness’. I am afraid of what might come out if they do one more thing to piss me off… I can’t wait for February 1st!

Thanks for listening to my rant…

Update: I emailed the person who helped me get the job to give her a full explanation (not that she deserved it but I felt it was needed). I didn’t want her to think I was ungrateful but I also didn’t want to sound like I owed her something because that’s not right. I worded it in the nicest way possible, and explained my decisions and timing in such a way that I did not throw anyone under the bus.¬†I cleverly worded it in a way that would make any smart person¬†know they fucked up,¬†without specifically saying¬†I know what they did. I am proud of the way I handled it and I even invited her to sushi to celebrate her promotion and my new position. Choosing whether to react or respond has been a really challenging thing for me in the past so I feel really good for taking the high road and not letting my emotions get the best of me. It feels so good to be such a clever bitch¬†and do it with class, and I know I am a better person for that.

 

(Rant)What I really want to say to you

This might be a little dramatic but I don’t really talk to anyone about all that happened in this relationship. This is a strongly worded letter to an ex, since I don’t want to actually reply to his recent message.

You messaged me again. It’s been over a year since I spoke to you last.

We dated for almost 2 years. I was completely in love with you at first. I still have never felt a spark like when we first kissed. The day you hid flowers behind your back and came over just to give them to me still gives me butterflies when I think about it. I was so good to you. The first year was amazing, we were amazing. I was loyal to you until I saw your true colors. You betrayed me.

You started to hang out with your younger, nobody, hooligan friends and then treated me like shit. You would lie to me, cheat on me, get drunk and call me at 2am to pick you up after lying about being sick. You hung out with people who I thought were my friends and lied to me with reasons for leaving me out. Then you went after my good friend.

You hooked up with me (we were broken up and you were dating her) then tried to convince her I was psycho and convinced her I lied about sleeping with you. I tried to warn her but she bought your bullshit and I lost not only one but two friends over it. I almost lost yet another friend because you ditched me at her party and caused so much drama for everyone. My car had broken down that day and I had it towed to your house because you said you would fix it.

You ditched me that night¬†at our friends party and I walked in the rain in flip flops and no coat with a dead phone in the middle of the night to where I KNEW you would be,¬†(your stupid hooligan friend’s house)¬†to tell you to take me home. You acted like I was crazy and your friends yelled at me to leave. So I had to walk BACK to where the party was only to come to a locked door. So I sat on the lawn sobbing and then decided to walk back AGAIN (about a mile and a half each way) and demand you take me home, because I had no phone to call anyone else and my car was at your house….

I can’t believe you had the audacity to message me after all this time and ask me how I’m doing. You deserve absolutely NOTHING from me. I want to laugh in your face and reply “are you serious?”.

You messaged me at 2am and then tried to play dumb the next morning and said “Oh I didn’t mean to message you I don’t know how that happened”. Then you said the next day “Actually, how are you?”. I looked at your facebook, you’re single… That girl must have finally seen what a true piece of fucking shit you are and dumped your ass and you think I am going to be dumb enough to play that game again?

You’re a complete looser. You’re never going to be anything special and you’re going to keep breaking hearts and fooling good women into thinking you’re some kind of gentleman but you’re not. My dad saw right through you and I foolishly tried to deny what a shitty person you were. You wouldn’t even look him in the eye when he warned you to treat me better. You are a coward. He HATED you and I was BLIND.. I can’t even believe I gave you that many chances.

I’m not even friends with those people anymore either. I only stayed friends with ONE girl that used to know you. She is still my best friend and we often drink wine together and talk about how LUCKY we were to get out of that group. Everyone is doing the SAME stupid low life shit that we used to think was cool.

I’m going to go ahead and continue my big girl job, enjoy the genuine company I keep and also go ahead and just say no thank you, go fuck yourself.¬†¬†You don’t even¬†deserve a¬†reply.

 

Anxiety Induced Rant

Do you ever just get so done with your current situation? Like you’re just tired of the same routine you’ve been doing and now you want to do something else? It happens to me all the time and it’s so bad right now! I just have the urge to pack up all my crap and move to Montana. I actually just had a funny conversation with my friend Molly about that. I told her we would move to a cabin there, I would learn to hunt for food and then we would live in peace, with out internet or contact unless it was on our terms… I even went as far as looking at listings online for properties. Montana is so beautiful..

I am just so bored of my job. I started in June and at first it seemed like a great place with tons of growth. But as I am trying to learn new things and am currently being trained in a higher position, I am noticing how fucked up the management is here. I’ve had three or four different people teaching me how to do things and they all do it different ways so I am so confused half the time. The other half of the time I am just trying to figure it out on my own… Another coworker has been a negative nancy and is quitting. She is my favorite person here, but lately I am just sick of her bitching.

Also, the holidays are pretty shitty this year. I know the price tag on a gift shouldn’t matter but I feel like I am not going to be giving back to others equally.

I hate money. It’s so hard to get to the point where you’re earning enough to support yourself. You basically have to kill yourself trying to get there by working late and not spending time on yourself or other important things. I spend most of my time at the office and then the rest of my life is in disarray. I just want to be outside or at home reading a book or something.

I want to go back to school but due to inherited properties I can’t get financial aid. My parents refuse to pay for school so I have been trying to save up enough to do it myself. It’s so hard to save money right now. I don’t have any sort of cushion. The opportunities and steps I could take to make more money COST money so what the fuck am I supposed to do..

I have plenty of opportunities with the company I am in and this would be the route to go to make more money down the road. However it’s not what I¬†want¬†to do with my life/career. I want to work with animals or have a farm or something someday. I wish it could be sooner than later… My dad always tells me I can do anything I set my mind to, which I try to do but something seems to always get in the way and I just want to get there!

I need to do something big, or important with my life. I need to help people and animals and I want to be remembered for something special when I am gone. My grandfather was one of those kinds of people and I feel like he is so disappointed in me for how I have done so far.. I just feel stuck, and frustrated that I’m not where I want to be nor am I headed in the right direction. Something has to change.

I Am Frustrated..

Ok, I know this is a really sensitive subject and I don’t want to offend anyone. I understand everyone is under different circumstances. But, if you own a dog, or before you get one, please ensure that you are prepared to take on the responsibilities of dog ownership.

Too often have I encountered¬†dog owners¬†who don’t have enough time to properly care for them. If you work 8 hours a day 5 days a week you must make sure your dog is getting exercise and interaction from YOU,¬†and that doesn’t mean short walks or just letting them outside. It also doesn’t mean tethering them outside.

I know people who have destructive dogs and I¬†believe it is because the dogs are bored or suffer from anxiety or neglect. It’s like when a baby cries just to receive attention. It really frustrates me when¬†an owner will¬†sit¬†and wonder why their dogs are destructive and wild but don’t take¬†action to try and improve it. Some owners resort to shock collars to scare their dogs out of certain behaviors. Others try to overcome their dogs strength and madness by using spiked collars or choke collars.

Positive reinforcement and a strong understanding of your dogs behavior, and an UNDERSTANDING how your dogs reacts and responds to different situations, environments, and people, are all extremely important things to learn as a dog owner.

Challenging your dog’s skills and abilities¬†is a great way to teach your dog that there are positive outlets for their energy and emotions. It is also extremely important and crucial that you remain patient because, like people, every dog has a different learning pace. Hiring a trainer is a decent option, but it will only continue work if the owner reinforces the training and enforces the new routines.¬†¬†You want to build the bond between you and your dog and encourage your dog to listen to you and watch you.

Also like people, every dog has a bad day. Sometimes there is a learning curve or peak and training a specific trick or behavior can take longer, or may need to be adapted to your specific dog’s needs and abilities.

Ultimately, I¬†believe¬†it is the owner’s responsibility to care for their animals.¬†If you constantly have to have someone else care for your dog, have to have someone¬†train your dog for you¬†etc, you may want to consider¬†if it may be in the best interest for the dog to let them go to someone who will take the time energy needed¬†to properly care¬†for them.

PS: As a pet owner please understand the importance of learning what foods are ok for your pet to consume before giving something to them. My coworker almost killed her own dog by feeding it grapes.

Rant from a Receptionist

From the title of this post, you can probably guess that I am a receptionist. I am fairly new to this type of work. I do my best to have patience and learn to multitask in a busy environment. However there are some key things that really just irritate me so much.

The first is when people do not respect my workspace. This is not just the lobby area, it is my desk and workspace. I have to be able to hear the customers on the phone. That means when you are sitting here waiting, and the phone rings, you can take your conversation OUTSIDE into the atrium or to one of the conference rooms.

A lot of the time my position requires me to assist other members of the office with different tasks. Sometime we use outside businesses and work with them, they use our conference rooms. Sometimes the employees try to interrupt me while¬†I’m¬†on the phone or ask me to do things for them that is part of¬†THEIR job while I am busy trying to finish my work on time. If you ask me something and I tell you “I need to finish this hold on.” please don’t keep explaining to me what you need to do and why you need to do it quickly.

I am here to help you but often my tasks require that I finish the specific page before I can even click out of whatever it is I’m working on. I am the type of person who will start writing whatever my train of thought is instead of what I was supposed to be writing.

At my job it is against the law for me to leave the front area. So when you call me on the phone and I transfer you to someone and you get voicemail, do not call me back and get mad at me. Sometime there aren’t anyone available this is actually a pretty small office. I am literally the messenger do not blame me for not being able to get you someone. If it is urgent I promise I will get someone to call you back right away.

Also, I am not the damn maid. Yes, it is part of my job to tidy up and maintain the office. If you work here, its really not hard to put your dirty dishes into the dishwasher instead of leaving them in the sink… It also really irritates me when people leave their coffee cups in the room or throw trash on the floor when there is a garbage can within a few feet…¬† One lady brought her toddler who smashed M&Ms into the carpet and she didn’t clean it up or mention it to me. I found it after she left… There was chocolate everywhere and we had to put in a work order to have the maintenance crew clean the carpets.

Lastly, twice today I had people¬†come in to solicit us. One was with a company and I refused to give him contact information, so he reached over and grabbed a business card that I didn’t realize had the email address on it that I originally refused to give him. What a dick move! Another person came in with no appointment to speak to one of our reps (who are extremely busy right now) and “link up”. Luckily our rep picked up on his game quickly and didn’t give him much detail. He was just fishing for details about us so he could go off and start doing it on his own. On one hand it was actually pretty¬†clever of him, but on the other hand, he was stupid to think our business wouldn’t pick up on what he was trying to do… He didn’t even shake her hand.

Anyway those are just my rants of the day. It’s been a crazy day in the office and there is high tension here. Does anyone else have any funny office stories or rants they want to share? I’d love to hear it!